I agree with TH... shut this woman out... find or hire an intermediary to handle all necessary contact for your DD... do NOT engage this woman in ANY way for at LEAST six months.. change your email, phone, etc.. all of it...
Give your wife an email and phone she can contact that is NOT yours.. hire a service if you have to... get someone ELSE who is OBJECTIVE to negotiate visitation and all that other stuff...
if your wife comes NEAR your home in a threatening way or has you get a PO out on her... PERIOD
You keep going soft on your wife and she's NOT going to come back as LONG as you are playing softball... she has no respect for you and will NOT have respect for someone who keeps allowing her to spit on them...
Once you put yoru wife in her PLACE she will BEGIN to respect you and after six months or so of you KEEPING her away UNTIL she shows respect she MAY consider returning...
Right now you are just a doormat to her
If you want her to come back.... YOU need to REMOVE her from your life UNTIL she starts showing respect to everyone involved...
Respect comes first, THEN your wife.. you need to put her out in the cold for six months ... NO CONTACT at ALL
THEN have a third party test the waters and evaluate if she might be healty enough for you to contact her
