You are navigating treacherous, perilous waters. Your future hangs in the balance. Do you REALLY think you can make your way to a good outcome ... with a buzz?
Like being on a plane in a terrible storm when the pilot is drunk, eh?
What's not to like about this?
M-47,W-40,No kids D-filed 5/27/2010 Piecing - 10/21/2010 -=Soon to be banned=-
Sorry to post again everyone, and maybe this is obvious to everyone but me, but specifically, what do I do tonight if she starts asking me about the things in her note?
Not sure if you have heard this , but the first thing to try is "AVOID R TALK LIKE THE PLAGUE!!!!!". Make plans to go do something you enjoy, then go to that! Take the kids for fun is even better.
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Happily, confidently respond "Can't talk right now, running late. See you later!!!!"
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You are navigating treacherous, perilous waters. Your future hangs in the balance. Do you REALLY think you can make your way to a good outcome ... with a buzz?
Like being on a plane in a terrible storm when the pilot is drunk, eh?
What's not to like about this?
We had a rule in the Air Force: "12 hours bottle to throttle." Except when we were TDY then it was: "No drinking within 50 ft of the plane."
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
I am home now and she just got home too. Sorry to beg, but anyone else care to help. I know I may not deserve it, but please? For now I will stay quiet on the topic.
Dan, make sure the kids are ok and then casually leave the house. Just a cool, See you later. No discussions. Go find something(anything) to do. If she tries to text you to come home to watch the kids so she can go out, ignore her. Stay out. Only go home when it's past her bedtime. Then just go straight to your own room. No discussions.
Do not talk or text her or any of her friends. If you need to talk, call one of your own friends. Remember, your W is not your friend right now.
We've all posted about what you need to do. Go back and re-read them. Be patient with yourself. We all slip up from time to time.
We've all posted about what you need to do. Go back and re-read them. Be patient with yourself. We all slip up from time to time.
I'm thinking his time scale is off. He expects results--good or bad--in a time frame as if this were an ordinary argument. He's not grasping the months ahead.
M-47,W-40,No kids D-filed 5/27/2010 Piecing - 10/21/2010 -=Soon to be banned=-
Thanks guys. Took S11 to baseball and went 4 a walk during practice. W just arriving now. Will probably run me down with auto. She is not happy. Welcome to the club. Game starting. No talking for me. Thanks again.
