I tried, I changed, but still am getting divorced!

[newmama]

Thank you all for your encouragement! I did feel strangely powerful and strong and like I was holding one of those huge foam fingers from baseball games but instead it was the middle finger! (lol!)

I think also it doesn't feel like NOW I HAVE TO MAKE A LIFE FOR MYSELF because I started trying to think of myself as a single mom, met other single parents, gradually transitioning, just in case the worst happened. And it has helped. I recommend it to anyone who is in our sitches.

Thank you, Whatnow, for this poem! It is perfect. All I had before was the serenity prayer, which is helpful,but not too detailed or the livestrong detachment article which is waaaaay toooo detailed (for me).


To let go doesn't mean to stop caring, it means I can't do it for someone else.

Can't make him see the huge mistake he is making for his son and himself.


To let go is not to enable, but to allow learning from natural consequences.


Yep, enjoy your downward spiral and how deep CAN you dig that hole anyway?Sorry but you made your bed....


To let go is not to regret the past, but to grow and live for the future. I won't be the one with regrets!lol!

To let go is to fear less and love more... [/quote]

I am poking fun, but in reality have compassion from an objective point of view. Like if I was watching a Lifetime Made for TV Movie, and I was watching my stbxh just screw up more and more and more...I would be screaming at the TV going "NO!!! WHAT THE BLEEP ARE YOU THINKING??? This is too painful to watch! Poor unfortunate soul....and his consequences are hurting OTHER people's lives! But this man will have to learn the hard way."