Piano, there is a strange positive of your WH moving to the other side of the world forever. You could find a stepfather for your daughter and she would always grow up with a consistent daddy. She wouldn't have to go back and forth between 2 homes. You wouldn't have to hear about OW.
I have had many many many days where I thought "what was I thinking? I should have told WH to stay out of our lives 100% until he has dumped OW." I know legally I couldn't have made him. But maybe he would run away and then I could find a replacement dad for S and get to have the intact family I always dreamed of. He will only learn of intact families from going to his friends' houses!
me,34 exH,34 S,16 months S:3/31/09-left for OW started DBing 10/09 d final: sometime 10/10 current: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1 met in 2004