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[awest1217]

Just had to stand up and keep to my boundary with H. She asked Father's day about taking S to see a balloon launch. Not a problem with me, but now H is going too. I said I am ok with MIL and FIL taking S, but H should not be a part of it because if H wants to be a father then he needs to start calling and asking to see S, not seeing S because I (which I have stopped doing) or his parents make him.

This is not supposed to be a daddy/S outing, but a grandparents/S outing. If she can't stick with that then S can't go. H doesn't get to see S whenever he wants. He needs to stick to a schedule now and not just be when it is convenient for him.

Too harsh?

Also...H still hasn't picked up his mail....I have decided to keep him on the car insurance because I get a discount for multicars, and since H has to pay his own insurance, it has nothing to do with me. The big thing is that H's license to teach is just sitting on the front porch and H was supposed to pick it up a week ago. I have finally gained control, and I don't think he likes that.