I'm sure he has tried romancing her with no expectations, I am sure he has done it for many years knowing he's going to fill her with love and get nothing at all in return. The other thing in having been around these divorce and marriage boards, is 1/2 the time a spouse has no or low interest in sex it is because they are getting it from the outside.
He says shes been to the doctor to have hormones checked. I did not see anything about her doing something specifically designed to counter a lowered libido. "The Wifey" - I don't see how you cannot see going 15 years without penetrative sex is not a problem and try to make and excuse for it. Going even more than one month without sex from your spouse is a problem.
"The Wifey" - I don't know a single soul who got married with intention on being celebate during any portion of their marriage. Also I don't know many who get married to expect a greatly reduced sex rate either.
I did not defend the wife nor did I say 15 years without penetrative sex is not a problem. If you read my first response to him you will see that I am in the Same FREAKIN boat, pal. It is a problem. A big, huge problem. But the more it becomes a hurdle the harder it is to get over it.
I never expected to be celebate at 41, 42, 43, going on 44. I started out by responding what MY Experience was. Then I asked questions because I didn't know all of the sitch. My bad for not taking an hour to read it all I suppose.
It isn't only a man that has a hard time without ML. If all I wanted was SEX that would have happened a long time ago. In the meantime I take care of my own needs. I have not gone all that time without an orgasm and I thank the good Lord above for blessing someone with the idea to create Double A Batteries!
The Wifey - but servicing your self is not the same in the mental or physical aspect at all. Its kinda good to hear you are in the same boat and can sympathize. I mean how can someone not get it through their skull that they are depriving their spouse each and every day, week by week, month by month, and for you guys years at a time. I mean is there a mental block or something in place. It truly is the sign of an intense amount of selfishness. I guess they believe we acknowledge that this is the way it is going to be because we have not left.
I have not had penetrative sex with my wife since the middle of January, before this it was 6 months I had it 4 times. For the 20 years before this I always had it at least twice a week, usually getting 4 to 5 times a week. It makes me crazy to not get it and it hurts physically and mentally, I'm sure others feel this too.
