Well here's mine

[Barkley]

Thanks 10....you may be right (see below)

So I get home from fishing this weekend and the first thing I do is confront my wife. She had CANCELLED her Facebook account the night before and I thought "Ok...this is it....here we go". I literally thought that all of my stuff might be on the front yard.

In any event I told her that if this is going to work, we have GOT to do a better job of communicating. Her recent letter and FB account cancellation led me to believe that she has "lawyered up" so to speak. Come to find out (yesterday) that two weeks earlier she had also expressed grave concern to one of our mutual friends that I had already hired a lawyer.

She told me that she had not "lawyered up" and is still trying to make this work. Somehow this led us into another conversation, where ALL this stuff started coming up about anger and resentment that she has built up towards my sister and her husband over the years.

My sister and her family have lived next door to us for about 8 years and she CAN be a nasty passive aggressive bitch sometimes. Something happened the day before that was unnacceptable from one of her kids. Two mutual couples had been invited to her house with their kids and my sister wasn't sure what to do about inviting my wife until the 11th hour becuase of all the wierdness between us. In any event, one of her children was over at our house swimming and said "we are having a party and ya'll aren't invited". This was before my sister had finally decided To invite her, her female friend and my kids who all eventually went over there anyway.

In any event, I am listening to her gush about how pissed off she was, how this was unaceptable, and how my sister has beaten her down consistently over the years. She then goes on to say that I HAVE NEVER stood up for her and taken on my sister regarding this type of behaviour (not true, I almost always call her out when she does mean things - she is a bitch to almost everyone anyway). I am literally sitting there thinking about all of this in my head, agreeing with her and trying to process all of the information she is giving me. She then says "STOP SMURKING, DO YOU THINK THIS IS FUNNY".....I was like WHAT?

I then had had enough and told her calmy but sternly to be quiet for just a second so I could think and respond. She said "DON'T TALK TO ME THAT WAY". In any event, after confronting my sister and we all had cooled off, I got some good dialogue going on between the two of them. Just like me, of course my sister had no idea that my wife had built up so much anger towards her over the years.

The thing that worries me the most is the look of craziness in my wife's eyes when she was spouting off all of this stuff. I have NEVER seen that look in 18 years. It was almost like talking to a crazy person. She was fine after she had calmed down and we actually had a good evening with the kids along with some good discussion.

Very wierd stuff