Monday night *Checked e-mail *Had e-mail from H saying that he was giving me a "heads up" that I would soon be served *somehow slept that night
Tuesday *called father to tell him; listened to his angry tirade and giggled in spite of my feelings *informed inner circle of development *saw IC; discussed these things: --if H had pressure to work things out with me (from family/friends), then this would not be helpful; his heart must be in it --IC said it's early but asked if I am able to think about or see how my future could be better without H; also asked if I would be able to accept a future with him if he never changed; then asked if it was better for me that this happened at this point rather than further down the road --IC told me to remember the reality of the marriage; don't get sucked into H's history rewrites or delusional beliefs; remember what are HIS issues and problems --IC asked if I would be content if H came back right now, exactly as he is, into the present situation, and picked up exactly where we were; TOUGH QUESTION BUT A GOOD ONE *after IC appointment, wondered if H called lawyer to file for divorce from the beach (as he was on his family vacation); decided to text and ask him --Me: Are you still at the beach? --H: Srry missed the text, yes I am --Me: You're calling your lawyer to file for divorce from the beach? --Me: [after 30 minutes] I don't mean to sound rude, but that wasn't a rhetorical question. --H: No I took him a check last week and he told me he would email me when things start to move along, he emailed me yesterday --Me: It would have been nice to know that last week. Why didn't I know this last week? --H: Because he told me to tell you this week after he did the papers --Me: Please tell me why he told you to wait to tell me. --H: He told me to give him a few days and he'd let me know when to tell you, i'm the one that told him I wanted to give you a heads up anyway --Me: I still don't understand why I had to wait to hear this. Forget the lawyer. Why couldn't YOU tell me last week? --H: Ok I'm srry. I have to go now.
WHAT?????
Tuesday continued *made appointment with superior attorney for Wednesday *had fantastic dinner with girls (as detailed in a previous post)
Wednesday *met with superior attorney for two hours; believe she may have superhuman powers *learned about exact process for my state *made attorney aware that I do not want a divorce; she described ways to delay but said that our state rarely, if ever, dismisses a divorce (though it's not impossible) *H's attorney does NOT specialize in divorce; also had not begun to write the marital dissolution agreement
MUSING--I wonder if H and H's attorney were under the impression that attorney would just draw up papers, parties would sign, and life would go on. Superior attorney especially wonders that based on the amount of money H gave his attorney.
Sunday *received text from H asking if I would give him half the money for the cell phone bill (never mind he quit paying on any household bills in early March)
Who knows what adventures the coming days will bring?!?!?!
