[Truegritter]

I agree with Puppy your W should at minimum be willing to meet some basic criteria to show you she wants to work on your M.

Yes I quoted myself...totally agree with you Puppy and will say it again.

She is putting up road blocks IMO.

BUT

You aren't going ANYWHERE if you keep pressuring her and controlling.

You might as well start banging your head against the wall...if you catch my drift.

So....

This

would also like for her to get help with her other underlying issues (OCD/ADHD, some gyn things that do make life hard on her

Is like taking an alcoholic who doesn't want to quit to a bar and expecting them not to drink.

And see previous suggestion ^^^^about head and wall.

Puppy is right. Cart and horse except your horse is dead (old M) and your still beating it trying to get it to go.

Need whole new cart and horse.

She has got to want this and show you she wants it.

Are you going to be satisfied in this M if status quo stays for the rest of your life?

I can tell you for sure she won't.

So what is your basic criteria for a happy M?

AND

What is she willing to do to get there?

Otherwise it's like a dog, you call it, it comes, it looks at you and then bang off to chase a squirrel.

Actually a dog is better...

Remember what I said to you when you started this thread?

Why are you in piecing?

You are the one who has made compromises here for the chance at outcomes and now that it is not turning out you are back to the old NLG, trying to control, getting upset...

Doesn't this feel familiar?