Sorry to post again everyone, and maybe this is obvious to everyone but me, but specifically, what do I do tonight if she starts asking me about the things in her note?
Not sure if you have heard this , but the first thing to try is "AVOID R TALK LIKE THE PLAGUE!!!!!". Make plans to go do something you enjoy, then go to that! Take the kids for fun is even better.
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Happily, confidently respond "Can't talk right now, running late. See you later!!!!"
"What is best for my kids is best for me" Amor Fati Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712