She Say's She Want's Out Of The Marriage

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You know we've been doing really well lately with all the pressure off. We have had very open conversations the past few days.

She said she needed to be honest with me, she knows she gave me a 2 X 4 across the head causing me to make changes. she feels that she can't stop because it will cause me either revert back or stop making changes.

The other she told me she was uncomfortable with me having a male roomate being that I have a teenage D. I asked her if she wanted me to get a female roomate, and she said absolutely not.

We have our first court dtae on 8 July do discuss child support and custody. i asked her today if july 8 is going to happen for sure. She responded by saying "Is that was this is about? A big push to get me to drop everything? Is that why you have wanted to talk about things so much? I thought it was because you have thought about our last meeting with the counselor".

Now she thinks that everything I say or do has a motive to get her to do something. That has never been me and isn't me now. Again, when we seem to make some progress, we seem to get knocked back down.

I had mention during MC last time that once we had that court dat it was a boundary crossed for me. It will have been a big negative in our situation, and money spent on an attorney that didn't need to be spent.

She sent me another email asking me "So what happens when July 8th does come and go? You still have it set in your mind that is a magical date"?

It appears as though she feels she needs to proceed with the court date, but still wants to hang on to the possibility of us reconciling. I'm not saying that it's not possible for us to reconcile during the D process, but the logic on her part just doesn't seem logical.