Yes, get an excellent family therapist and get a hand written invite your your H...
Your H may even just be reading internet porn or something I have no idea... He's all over the place...
Just be sure most if not all of what you say is scripted by you in advance and focuses on your goals... raging an impulsive comments are common in a LBS... I don't begrudge them when they happen, but they do set you back when they happen
