Divorce in 1 month Help with exposing please need

[twolf]

Allen.... or P.D.T.........any advice .

[elvencat]

I agree with MRBond about the father/son bond... I am actually starting the process of going No Contact and I have a feeling it will be somewhere between NC and Dark, rather than full NC. But, whatever is going on with H and me, DD will be in regular contact with H. I insist on it only because it will do much more psychological harm to her in the long run to not be in contact with him right now. So, for that part of it, definitely make sure you are meeting your son's needs for his father.

Regarding the other part about dbing when you're dark.. I've read some of your sitch, but not a lot, so I don't feel qualified to make a reliable comment on that right now....

[Allen A]

TWolf, you need to trust the process... Keep your face out in public.. make sure everyone knows where you stand and what OM is doing... No one likes to be the town creep... And no woman I know wants to be associated with the town creep...

If OM ends up looking like the town creep the affair won't last long term...

Don't get fixated on one phone call.. You can't analyze single events... only patterns of repeated events...

Keep holding onto your position... You're doing well...

If you can put more pressure on the OM and the affair then do that....

[Allen A]

Hey TWolf, I have a question for you.

Given you tried LRT for a year and have tried

The exposure and family protection routes here more recently...

Are you in a position to conclude if the first or secodn approach is more effective for your situation?

I am just reviewing another visitor's thread who is unsure of this but has been trying LRT for a year now... making dinner for her H who's cheating on her much like your wife is, trying to get the public to accept the cheating etc...

Her H visits one day a week, eats dinner with her and their son and hurls abuse at her, stays the night and then leaves to cheat for the next whole week and teh cycle starts over...

I am advocating to NOT make dinner, NOT do nice things and to EXPOSE teh affair.. But she's not sure about this approach... I thought you may be in a position to comment...

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http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2027778#Post2027778

[twolf]

Allen sense the exposure everyone that has said anything to stbxw she has cut
them out of her life and does not talk to them.

They have told me that she is so paranoid that every one is talking about the A and how i outed her from her making it seam that she lied to them all the whole time.

She has not spoken to them or seen any of them in a few weeks sence she went on her witch hunt to find out who ive talked to.

Did find out Stbxw lost her job.



Their has been no talk on the divorce.

My thoughts are she has to be the one willing to make the advance of reparing the marrige.

Her calling me to talk to son 2 at 10.30 at night on a friday might be her way of checking on me.

As far as me not talking to son im doing this for him, my marrige and family.

Ive had the ball on my side of the court for so long its her turn.

I left my wifes gas card on for a 9 month at 500 dollars a month and 1000 a month child support i turned it all off two months ago.

I did text her last night that i wanted to talk to son and she never called.


As far as this Lady kick his ass to the curb he is cake eating.

[Allen A]

As far as this Lady kick his ass to the curb he is cake eating.

ROTFLMAO

[Allen A]

You are right TW, she does need to move a step forward, her losign her job may wake her up even more... any info on why she lost her job?

[twolf]

Nope no one knows wy she lost her job.


That lady that you wanted me to look at needs to learn to fight fair,

[Allen A]

She's fighting for her marriage TW, its her H that is flaunting his affair all over the place and making her feel like crap.. she had a fling and ended it for her marriage and he just ended up cheating on her and doing a LOT MORE HURT than she ever did... I read her whole thread carefully... and SHE is on this forum ... NOT him.. that tells you something...

Read the whole thread... Her H needs a slap in the head lol

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There have been cases of people slacking off at work while they were cheating and got let go for bad performance or attendance...

addictions do damage to your lifestyle...

If she was let go for bad performance or attendance I woudl NOT be at all surprised.. you have seen the damage and neglect she's doing on the home front.. you think she's holding her job up at 100% or do you think your wife's been coasting there too?

[twolf]

Allen....... Im at the pont that i could care less if she came back.

All i think about lately is im only doing it for my son.

Ive been lied to cheated on false R/O that i fought and wone ive had lies told about me. Had my taking and moved 100 miles away from me. Had child support sent to the state just so she could be mean even though i pay on time every time.
Had mil and Sfil turn on me .

I dont have any feelings left for her.

Is this bad of me i dont know.

Maybey they will change but this is what she did to me!

Ive tryed and tryed and maybey that is how cocoons huband feels right now!