It may work, it may validate to her to follow through on the divorce.. its a gamble... I am not saying no, but it is a switch of gears.. we only pic up a small bit of the situation on this forum and you are in the thick of it, yoru judgement would certainly be best here...
What are the legal ramifications of you moving out? Does that mean she can be owner of the home? Be fully aware of the legal implications of you changing residences... even if you DON"T move you want to know in case SHE knows.. you dont' want her knowing somthing you don't about the law and calling your hand here...