And here I am .... H's MLC ....

[PEI]

Now that's all well and good ... but what does it translate into for my day to day life you might ask ...

On July 15th when we go to the MC she is going to ask how we want to proceed forward as our current arrangement was end dated for July 31st. I want H to go first. He can only respond in one of 4 ways so I am preparing for each.

1. H may want to continue as is for 3 more mos.
2. H may want to continue the living arrangments but remove the no dating etc stuff.
3. H may be ready to leave and get his own place.
4. H may be ready to work on the marriage.

Regardless of his choice, I am prepared to tell H that I am moving back into the house full time on August 1st. I am becoming resentful of not having any time in my own home and, although this time has been beneficial for the kids to make the transition, it's now time to regularize our arrangements. Regardless of which option he wants, I need him to go. I expect H will be angry, he may feel like he's not financially in a position to get set up yet - that's his issue/problem to deal with - time to put on the "big boy pants" and go get what he wanted ... independance. I will not push him out on August 1st when I move back in, he can continue to use the spare room or stay at his sisters until Sept 1st, but the kids need to be settled by the time school resumes in the fall.

I will not settle for anything less than a partner, I'm no longer interested in some sort of parent/child dynamic. That marriage is dead.

I am so excited about this summer. I have booked 6 weeks of vacation to spend with my kids playing and enjoying each others company ... lots of beach time!

Peace
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