It's an easy gig for her. No pressure to leave, husband takes the kids when she has plans. If I were her I'd ride that as long as I could.
The question is do you want this existence? If you are cool with it, then fine. If not, I don't see any actions to further you along to where you want to be. You say she has told you she doesn't want to work on the marriage. So your current state will continue indefinitely unless some action is taken.
I'm not trying to apply any pressure, because if you are stress free in this environment and don't mind living like you are, then by all means continue. It's not a marriage, but it could be a lot worse.
However you have said many times you wish she would leave. She has no reason to. I'm just trying to ascertain what you really want.
I hear you, Pigskin.
I guess I'm trying what I see as LRT or something. I don't mind being with my kids. I love them and will be there for them. I can't see leaving them with a sitter just to show W I'm not her babysitter. You know?
It has lessened my stress. Just letting her be. She doesn't stay out late or stuff like that anymore. Our home life, on the other hand, has not improved at all.I can't live like this forever and it's not the kind of M that I want. I know I should start the D process.
I guess I'm trying the "easy" things instead of doing the tough or "right" thing. In my mind, I'm trying to wait her out so she will be the one to file and leave. In reality, I know she won't. Where does that leave me?
I know where. I need to take that step. In seems so final. It wouldn't necessarily be final and may help wake her up. Even if it doesn't, I am just delaying the inevitable. Take charge and lead. I know.
