that I need to gently suggest that he plan a meal with the kids outside of me? Or does it even matter?
When he calls you can do that.
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If I believe this message then I need to continue to do things that demonstrate love? Is this different from being a doormat because of the fact that I'm in control of what I do and have no expectations that he will begin to demonstrate love for me? Just wondering..
Its a good wonderment. Great question. My take?
You realzie this is your choice and are aiming for a better...goal if you will. You WANT him in your life, but not like he currently is. Your choice to do this your..control, which makes you not a doormat.
Now, IF you were doing this...just laying down, doing this because you would take him back no matter the cost because you NEED him to be married to you because you cannot live without him...well you might as well have 'WELCOME' tattooed on your chest.
This MLC, it is NOT a GAME, but you PLAY to WIN. MLC is NOT a DANCE, but you should LEARN the MOVES. MLC is NOT a BATTLE, but you FIGHT to WIN the WAR. MLC is NOT about YOU, but YOU NEED to BECOME A BETTER YOU in the time you have.
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
