I've been on these divorce and marriage forums for over 5 years now. What I have learned is pretty scarey. In cases like this or even menopause or ANY EXCUSE that can be used to get out of sex with the husband, in over 1/2 these cases the woman does not have sex with the husband because she is getting it from somewhere else.
In my case, I wouldn't consider that scary. If it were the case, then it would almost be a "refreshing" change of problem. No longer would it be a deep problem of her not being capable of enjoying sex, it would be a case of her feelings for me, which I think could be an easier problem to solve? Or at least different! If she wanted the other guy, wel then that sort of solves the problem and we both know we can move on and both be happy.
At this point, I wouldn't go to pieces if my wife "didn't love me". I know there are lots of other women out there who would, and I only need one of them.
With the right one you only need one. I guess it would be a refreshing change to actually know the truth and have true closure. Its why I tell people, "the truth doesn't hurt, its the lies".
What if the truth was for some odd reason your wife lost attraction and other parts of her love for you because you had gained some weight. It sounds petty but it happens, and if you lose the weight and when you are lighter her attraction returns and gets stronger.
Sometimes these things are like requirements, and the base level requirements where it has to be met.
We don't expect it in marriage, but sometimes thats how it is, and knowing this it does not hurt.
