Thanks for your insight. I did thank him for helping in the garden and told him it looked lovely. I think you are right. I see a lot of confusion and sadness at times as he sorts his head out.
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H does come out further each time from his hole. The last withdrawal was q long time for him at 10 weeks. He continues to visit but his communication with me other than when he visits is nil. No texts or phone calls. I know OW opens his mail so I am sure she is looking at his phone bill and mobile to continue to control him.