The Good Soil Of Love

[Concerned_Listener]

Matilda,
My W says that the Cha Cha team is the one she was waiting for. We're lucky there was an opeing, as the group is limited to four couples.

Our star is rising at the dance studio. Our instructor looks astonished at what my W and I have accomplished each time we see him for a lesson. It's probably a combination of all the hours of lessons, social dancing, and some natural talent that contributes to our success.

My W's last day of work is this week. I think she's handling it well. She is meeting with a friend who is a writer to draft a letter of recommendation from her employer. She mentioned that it's helpful having the dance and fitness activities to fill her time.

I met a swim instructor at our fitness club, and told him about my lack of comfort in water. I felt comfortable with him and asked him to provide private instruction to me. My W and I have been visiting the pool after our yoga class. This would give me an opportunity to practice what I'm taught in lessons.

My W and I had our first lesiurely Sunday in years, as she changed the cooking day to Monday. I still cook the meat, but we no longer have a Sunday deadline to meet. My W will handle the vegetables, packing, and drop on her own. We spent a leisurely Sunday afternoon of yoga, swimming, talking to the swim instructor, and going to lunch.

My W has noticed my increased investment of time in the relationship, calling it choosing to be a companion. She has reciprocated by making me vegetable trays for snacking.

We have been sleeping together in the main room. We both seem avoidant of any sexual activity.

I think a level of platonic connection has been established that we've never had before. This can only ripen the time for increased intimacy, which my W and I will have to navigate together.

The "Booundaries in Marriage" book has been helpful. I like the advice of keeping honesty in the relationship and not attempting to control one's spouse.

She has plans to go on a motorcycle day trip with a retired man who is the boyfriend of one of her friends. I don't think it's appropriate for her to do so, but chose not to say that. I did raise questions about the character of this person, letting her know my concerns for the potential of this person being inappropriate with her. She said she had the same concerns. She is being transparent about it, so won't say anything further.

CL