It's probably admissable, since it's your MIL's computer and you have her consent. As Allen said, however, not sure how useful it will be, but I would certainly capture EVERYTHING, and then let your atty decide. Judges, after all, are only human, and there is an overall "halo effect," or "preponderence of the evidence" thing that takes place, and if OVERALL, you -- with your daily journal, notes, receipts, bank statements, screen shots, etc., etc., etc., come across as the more credible party, that will certainly work in your favor.
...expose to his family those texts and collect more if you think its waking them up ...
I was actually thinking this might be needed, especially to get the chats on the after effects of me leaving. The only problem is, I'll have to make sure I can come to MIL's house without H around every few days to collect the info. MIL is NOT good at computers, so I can't trust her to be able to do it correctly. I'll have to think about it and see what I can do.
Me 32, H 34, DD 3 M 6, T 8 Bomb 03/10 OW Bomb 6/5/10 Separate & NC 6/28/10 My 2nd EA Thread
This (using the evidence to expose, and re-expose, to family) is a great point. There's no legal threshhold with a MIL, lol.
I didn't want to overly harm, emotionally, my wife's parents, who at the time of my wife's affair were 85 years old. It was killing them enough as it was, without me playing/showing raw intel for them like their daughter having sex in her car with a man half her age, or openly talking to OM about LYING TO HER PARENTS about it, and how they needed to "just get over it."
I did, however, look them in the eye, and tell them their daughter was lying to them, that she WAS having an affair, including PA, and that "as painful as this is, Mom and Dad, I wouldn't be telling you this and upsetting you if I didn't have absolute proof of what I'm saying is true."
Be VERY careful.. addicts can get VIOLENT when you violate their fantasies like this... I DO reccomend doing it, and even expsing it, but be aware of the potential reactions here...
Your H may just fly into a rage if you expose him and all of that stuff to people... He will NOT be happy at the very least... But alcoholics get angry when you expose them too... It happens
Just rmemeber you are violating his secret fantasy life.. that's like pouring alcohol down the toilet.. He's NOT going to be happy you are ruining his secret fantasy.. he's CLINGING to that with his LIFE right now... you take that fantasy away he will NOT be impressed...
WHen you expose the fantasy, you take away its power and its excitement.. its like urinating in his acohol stash... the more you expose, the more you ruin it, the more you ruin it, the less exciting and fun it is...
Ideally you want the whole community turning their heads away in shame and everyone closing their doors to him
WHen its not fun, when its STRESSFUL and HUMILIATING to be PART of that fantasy again he will find returning to his marriage more attractive.. but he will be in a range during this process..
is eblaster free? and does it work on Windows 7? I can't pay for anything right now. The other program was a full version (with screen shots and keylogging) trial except for remote send. I want to make sure whatever it is, is fully hidden on windows 7.
I was using ReFog - now that I've decided to present to lawyer, I'm not worried about saying what I was using - and H seems to have no clue what I say here, if he did, he would have chatted with OW about it.
Me 32, H 34, DD 3 M 6, T 8 Bomb 03/10 OW Bomb 6/5/10 Separate & NC 6/28/10 My 2nd EA Thread
I have never seen him get as worked up as he has in the past few weeks. I know he can be a danger to himself (self-inflicting by hitting his head) when he's emotionally over wrought, but as far as physical to me, he's never ever tried.
Not saying I won't be careful of it, because this is new territory, but I am not extremely anxious about it.
Me 32, H 34, DD 3 M 6, T 8 Bomb 03/10 OW Bomb 6/5/10 Separate & NC 6/28/10 My 2nd EA Thread
lol... the more she sees, the worse she feels, but I don't know if it'll hit a breaking point for her where she can kick him out. She is more of an enabler than I am! (but I am a recovering enabler now )
Me 32, H 34, DD 3 M 6, T 8 Bomb 03/10 OW Bomb 6/5/10 Separate & NC 6/28/10 My 2nd EA Thread
Just keep hitting her wtih info... She needs to wake UP
And I just realized OWM was giving you marital advice over the phone - she's not licensed to do that... lol
LOL on the marital advice.. d**n I wish I'd thought to have a voice recorder and put her on speaker.. that would've been fun to give to a judge. - I'll remember that.
And I just told MIL about OW saying too bad H couldn't put my stuff out on the lawn, and H agreeing! The look on MIL's face was one of complete contempt at OW, and then I told her H agreed, and her face slid into shock. I think she's starting to see how different he's acting from the son she thought she knew.
Me 32, H 34, DD 3 M 6, T 8 Bomb 03/10 OW Bomb 6/5/10 Separate & NC 6/28/10 My 2nd EA Thread
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