Here is a note my wife is typing me right now (eblaster). What to make of it? I will not respond. Do I talk to her about it tonight or just remain detached?
She needs you to back off and get-a-life. Keep getting in her face and talking about how great you think the relationship was or could be. and how much you love her and can make changes and how she is making a mistake,
and you will end up be known as the "idiot ex-husband that didn't get a clue and screwed up when he might of had a chance."
How are you accomplishing detachment?
Ok. Maybe I am an idiot. For detachment I have started spending more time with my kids. I joined a softball team, but we got rained-out. Game tomorrow night. I went out the past 2 fridays with other friends. I have tried to keep busy with projects around the house to stay out of W's way.
The problem I have is that she continues to be nice and it doesn't feel like I should be detaching. We tell others spend time together and show their wives the man they want to be with. I have also been trying to do that by spending time with the kids and by continuing to do my 180's, which are the kids, housework and backing off on the sex, which has been 3 months. I don't know how much more I can do to back-off. Last night I went to my room and worked on the computer so I wasn't around to watch TV. She thinks she wants this to be a nice, friendly, clean divorce to make it easier on her. Not sure I can or should do that.
What do I do next? Just shut down and stop talking to her and only interact with the kids? We had a nice dinner last night and worked together to clean-up the kitchen after. Probably the wrong thing to do also. Do I just stop doing the housework 180?
