Well folks, I am not sure I will be a DB success story after all.
We have had our piecing ups and downs since December. It has not been easy, that's for sure... but there were a lot of promising signs, especially in the beginning.
But, as time has gone on, my H has become less and less motivated to do his part to restore this M. He has become more and more self absorbed. He is doing his IC. He started taking AD meds but then stopped.
But, he refuses MC. I have asked him to read books, and gave him a copy of NJF which has not been cracked open. I have asked him to initiate spending time together or contacting me. Nothing. He avoids me. I've asked for help with the finances. Nothing.
So, I've been getting stronger. I've been setting boundaries. He has pretty much decided he is not willing to meet them. He is gone this week for business again. I told him what I need (the above) and asked him to think about it over the week. If he is not willing to do these things, we will discuss separation when he returns.
It is possible I may not be a M success story. But, my friends, I KNOW that I am a personal success story. I am growing by leaps and bounds in my sense of self worth and confidence, what I will tolerate or not tolerate in any relationship, and all other areas of my life.
My H has a chance to step up. If he chooses not to, I choose to do what I need to for myself and my kids. There is no shame in that and I know I have done everything I could and then some to save this M. My conscience is clear and my head is held high.
