Be VERY careful.. addicts can get VIOLENT when you violate their fantasies like this... I DO reccomend doing it, and even expsing it, but be aware of the potential reactions here...
Your H may just fly into a rage if you expose him and all of that stuff to people... He will NOT be happy at the very least... But alcoholics get angry when you expose them too... It happens
Just rmemeber you are violating his secret fantasy life.. that's like pouring alcohol down the toilet.. He's NOT going to be happy you are ruining his secret fantasy.. he's CLINGING to that with his LIFE right now... you take that fantasy away he will NOT be impressed...
WHen you expose the fantasy, you take away its power and its excitement.. its like urinating in his acohol stash... the more you expose, the more you ruin it, the more you ruin it, the less exciting and fun it is...
Ideally you want the whole community turning their heads away in shame and everyone closing their doors to him
WHen its not fun, when its STRESSFUL and HUMILIATING to be PART of that fantasy again he will find returning to his marriage more attractive.. but he will be in a range during this process..
