going on 18 yrs of marriage, with two boys, 12 and 14, i can finally say that the sexual part of my marriage is dead--and it's been dead for at least 9-10 yrs.
i still have the libido of a teenager, and my wife still fills me with desire for her, yet i am to go on through this marriage being unable to touch her in a romantic, sexual, passionate manner. i truly feel that i have been completely emasculated: i will not go to her and wrap myself around her and tell her how beautiful she is, and how much i still love her, because i know that she will say,"ok, that's good, now can you please let me go/go away?!" as if i'm suffocating her.
nothing can be done. i tried everything. we have once a month sex--which i call her monthly maintanence--and then i don't have any sex until next month. i am rejected all of the time.
everthing else in the world is more important than to be with me sexually, romantically, intimately. there just is no room for her to be a wife: there's only room for her to be a mom and a career woman.
I've been on these divorce and marriage forums for over 5 years now. What I have learned is pretty scarey. In cases like this or even menopause or ANY EXCUSE that can be used to get out of sex with the husband, in over 1/2 these cases the woman does not have sex with the husband because she is getting it from somewhere else.
The question is what are her friends doing? Alot of time this will give you the answer you need.
I also find it hard to believe that a woman who still has that sex attraction on her outer surface is not using it. We know she is getting that type of attention because of what she is putting out.
