Still chipping away at EA

[elvencat]

Thanks so much everyone for all of your support.

I had a crying jag last night for a while after it hit me that I'm really doing this, but it was a 'good' cry. Realizing I'm doing this not for what was, but for what is and what will eventually be and that the only one who's life I can have a great amount of control over is mine.

Puppy, I am so amazed you admire me, for a long time I've been reading your's and Allen's posts and wishing I could 'get it' and I think I'm finally there.

4MYRS - thanks for the good thoughts, I am happy knowing that I have so many people thinking about me now, when I first started this horrible journey I felt so alone.

Allen, I have no clue why my screwed up computer will let me see the file and then not download it. lol. Gotta love it. Thanks for taking effort to try to get it to me.

I have shown MIL some of things being said - especially how H told OW FIL thought I was immature and never did like me. If that's true, I doubt we'd have gotten along as well as we have. MIL was SHOCKED. I think it hit her that H was really doing these things.. and with HER computer (his is broken, that's how I was so easily able to get the intel). She had no clue he was interacting so nicely all night, every night, with us in person while chatting about stuff like that. I know he has schizophrenia, but didn't want to suspect multiple personality. ICK

As far as the other house, I have a key and MIL/FIL have a shared key. MIL knows my wishes about him not just showing up, and she, and FIL, know not to give H a key to get in. At this point, I'm even going to be ignoring his calls and sending them to voice mail. He wants me gone so badly, he has no reason to call me.

BTW - anyone know if screenshots taken without H's knowledge can be used in divorce proceedings legally, especially since he was using MIL's computer and she knew the capture program was there? I would love to be able to prove to the judge that H is acting like an addict, and if he can be removed from the addiction, he may come around, thereby prolonging the divorce proceedings..... And trust me, the chat logs have addict written all over them, it was so scary, he sounded like a guy begging for the next hit. I'm planning on showing them to a lawyer, but just thought I'd ask if anyone here knew.