Nope, you expose to his family.. expose to anyone you YOU think may influence him in some wya to end his affair
You don't HAVE To go to his workplace or to OW... the text reccomends it because SOME wayward husbands dont' even TELL OW they are married...
If your workplace isn't likley do do anything then don't expose there...
Do what works still applies here...
And yes, RAGE is often the response.. you are violating his secret romantic fantasy.. he's going to be angry about that...
Have you ever tried to lock the liquor cabinet on an alcoholic?
They get ANGRY
Its the addiction talking... NOT HIM
If you think exposure is going to produce an offensive reaction then yes PROTECT yourself FIRST THEN expose him...
As long as you keep his secret for him you are part of the affair.. no better than one of his buddies lying to cover his tracks for him...
YOu DO need to protect yourself though, that's part of the protection phase...
I often reccomend you have friends and family involved.. HEAVILYL involved in this don't do this on your own in secret... families are involved at the wedding when things are going well, it just makes even MORE sense to bring them together to help you when things are problematic and you NEED their support...
If you sent him a letter pretty much stating your position then you just need to protect yourself and your family and start exposing to anyone who may pressure your H in any way to start acting like an adult and to stop his abuse (infidelity IS abusive as much as alcoholism is or maybe even moreso)...
Don't expose if you are a huge targt in your home, if he's moved out then get whatver paperwork or separation orders you need done to restrict his access and get yourself to safety and THEN expose to people...
