DESPERATE FOR HOPE AND UNDERSTANDING

[Coach]

There was one moment where she said, "I hear the Backstreet Boys." I didn't hear her well, and said, "Backstreet Boys?" She said, "Yes." I said, "Where? The Backstreet Boys are here?" She then snipped, "No! I HEAR the Backstreet Boys! What would the Backstreet Boys be doing HERE at a place like this??!!" It was so nasty. So I just happily replied, "Why not? It's not like they have anything better to do? What arena are they selling out these days?"

Your reply was not happy it is passive-aggressive. Why didn't you just say "I misunderstood you. Yeah, why would the Backsreet Boys be here."

But most of my weekend was spent dealing with a W who was curt, edgy, inpatient and seemingly frustrated by something

Wonder who that could be?

it's hard sometimes and you feel like there's something more you can do.

Really listening, validating (agree with your wife - her thoughts/feelings)

I played cool and tried not to make matters worse.

Try leading instead walking around afraid of your wife.

I was pretty over her and her mood

really? your last couple of posts are all about her mood and how you reacted.

But I keep hanging in there...

Stop being the victim. Who's more fun to be around Eeyore or Tigger?