I know how badly you want to show him how much he hurt you. Do you think he doesn't know? Did he not know you at all? He knows. You not putting it in his face just leaves the pressure off. Is that important? You decide. Is it more important for him to feel at ease enough to be around you and S4 or do you want him run from you and possibly S4.
That was beautiful Grace, and much nicer than the way I would have said it.
Pie,
The things you want, or want to be, come with TIME and effort.
DBing is a tactic to get your marriage back ONLY in so much that you CHANGE bad habits, become a better person and down the road your erstwhile spouse looks back and goes:"WHOA!" There is the person I missed or...better yet, there is a person I want to know, how could I be so stupid.
Nowhere in DBing, in, Newcomers, WAS, MLC...Thinking of leaving...no where is there a magic trick or way to control the spouse back to you. And each forum goes about it a little different. MLC IS different and we look for the VERY long Haul. That is not to say your H comes back in a LONG time...it is likely if he is in MLC, it is long haul for YOU and lasting changes tend to take time anyway.
3 months and your H seems happy.
Pie, look 3 months is really nothing...ohh it feels like f-ing forever, but it really isn't much time at all.
You WANT to e able to do this?
Stop counting time, past or ahead, live in today, and make it to tomorrow.
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
