How are we supposed to anticipate everything that can happen, though? I mean I totally relate to what you are saying. But one thing I learned in all of this is that I am NOT GOOD at defending/responding/asking on the fly!
I also have trouble thinking on the fly, and sometimes stumble through things - often making them worse!
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I reserve the right to say, from now on, "I need time to absorb this. I want to finish this discussion soon but not now." For anyone who drops a bomb on me, not just stbxh!
And we CAN change how we respond/act from this point forward though. Why not revisit a discussion if necessary? Why not make a change that should have been done? (within reason)
This is EXCELLENT advice, NewMama! I think I'll use it from now on. Thanks!
