Mish, in my experience on this BB it is very rare that a WAS is willing to sit down and talk about the A. They would like to sweep it under the carpet because they did the bad thing and obviously figure they're gonna take the brunt of the finger pointing. Also, the most feared words in the English language for guys is "lets talk about the R"! It's really hard to let go and know whether to bring it up or not is appropriate. It makes you anxious! You know things need to be talked about but you don't want to push too hard too early. It's a tough choice. Can you follow OT's suggestion that you just lay low for a bit? Maybe use this as a way to work on containing your own anxiety. Personally, I'd be just as confused as you are right now. Keep posting your thoughts!
