I'm sorry to hear all of this. From my perch on the outside looking in, it certainly doesn't look as if you're wife is making any of the necessary efforts to make you feel safe and loved in the marriage following her infidelity. The FB ALONE is playing with fire, but when you throw in the lack of effort to even try to meet your sexual needs . . . ugh.
Have you ever read Dennis Prager's two articles about low-desire spouses? Maybe you should send them to your wife.
