Pam, listen to Puppy. It's best to know what you are up against to. Forget the "I dont think he would do that to me, he isnt that kind of man" or anything similar that you maybe thinking. We want to help not to make your H look bad. Good people make mistakes. But if you know what is going on, you will know how to handle it.
As for the pain... Most of us have gone through it and we have ALL survived no matter what happened with our marriages. Hugs K
