I was aware of that possible rationalization when I wrote it. Right now, I would feel better knowing that there are such women out there, rather than not. The thing is, I've never had a relationship with that type of woman, so it's a bit like taking it on faith. The obvious part is that there are women with high desire -- I've had women come on to me over the years, much like my wife originally did. But what's not so obvious is if all these women would really have a SUSTAINED interest over many years.
After the experience with my wife, and after hearing so many stories from many source about how it's quite normal and common for women to lose desire after childbirth, after which desire often does not fully recover, and further lose it with further childbirths, lose it further with menopause, lose it with the birth control pill, and get bored with their marriage (they say that's normal too), etc. All the "hot sex" marriages I know of personally are either young newlyweds, or divorced and newlyweds. Of all my long-term married friends, it's practically an SSM, not counting those which broke up and we don't hear from any more.
And why are there so darn many articles on how to "spice up your marriage"? There's an article like that in virtually EVERY issue of Redbook Magazine. Well, I figure it's because the majority of marriages are badly in need of it!
I don't have a complicated agenda for my question. I'm just curious. Just like I'm curious what it's like to have intercourse, as it's been 15 years. And I'm curious to see a woman having an orgasm, as I've NEVER seen that.
