He's Loving the Freedom of the 180 - Now What?

[newmama]

If I'd thrown him out, changed the locks, and properly exposed the affair WHEN I DISCOVERED IT two years ago, OW would be history and we'd be in recovery. I didn't do it - had no idea how to do it - and now I'm paying the price.

If I try to do it NOW, my marriage is over. WH would walk away and never look back. He'd lose his job and his career because the University would rather get rid of him than enforce their own rules.

Timing and....shouldawouldacoulda! I hear you! But I just think you are right about how some methods and approaches to ending the A or saving your marriage, etc. aren't effective if they are done at the wrong TIME.

So...at what point do you forfeit the battle in order to win the war?

I take this to mean let some stuff go in order to reach your goal? Heck yeah! Depends on the stuff though....