I agree with MRBond about the father/son bond... I am actually starting the process of going No Contact and I have a feeling it will be somewhere between NC and Dark, rather than full NC. But, whatever is going on with H and me, DD will be in regular contact with H. I insist on it only because it will do much more psychological harm to her in the long run to not be in contact with him right now. So, for that part of it, definitely make sure you are meeting your son's needs for his father.

Regarding the other part about dbing when you're dark.. I've read some of your sitch, but not a lot, so I don't feel qualified to make a reliable comment on that right now....

Me 32, H 34, DD 3
M 6, T 8
Bomb 03/10
OW Bomb 6/5/10
Separate & NC 6/28/10
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