One thing I meant to ask about, but forgot. Generally, when D papers are filed, the parties are separated and living apart. That is what my W's attorney suggested she request. However, since we can't really afford that, my W said No, take that out of the boilerplate paperwork.
Now, I am thinking that maybe I should have my attorney request that my W be removed from the house and forced to live on her own since she is having an affair and staying out until all hours of the night and not setting a good example for our kids! Plus, she is the one seeking the D, so why shouldn't she be the one to leave?
I am worried that this may backfire on me though and result in me being ordered out of the house instead. WI is a no-fault state, so in terms of the D, it doesn't matter if there was an affair or anything else going on. All you do is say "irreconcilible differences" and the marriage can be dissolved. No fault. But does it matter for living arrangements and placement of the kids?
I'll have to ask my atty on Friday when I go to see her.
One more thing. The ace up my sleeve is that if my W tries to get nasty, I know whe has been making many personal calls, sometimes LONG ones, from work to the OM. She has already been investigated for inappropriate personal e-mails, so I will tell her that I will report her activities to the regional or state level and have them look into call to his ph number. I don't want to ruin her, but if she is going to get nuts, I am going to get ruthless.
