The saga continues

[OfficerInNeed]

OK help me out here. I thought what I was doing was working and for the most part it seemed to until yesterday.

I wanted to come back to this, OIN, and I'm NOT just being snarky or 2x4ish here:

This, to me, is where you are stuck, and is the heart of your problem. Because for MONTHS, various posters from varying backgrounds and philosophies have all pretty much told you that it's NOT working.

And yet you keep on saying that it IS.

And this pretty much is key, because I can see that -- if I were you -- and if I DID think that what I was doing was working, I wouldn't want to try any of the tougher things that other people were recommending to me, either.

I think you REALLLY need to put some hard thought in the next couple of days into what your metrics of "success" are. Because I don't think this is working whatsoever.

Again, I say this not to DISCOURAGE you, but you ENCOURAGE you . . . encourage you to TRY SOMETHING DRAMATICALLY DIFFERENT!!!

Puppy

Well I say this because, I look back on where we were then and now. Things were better up till yesterday then they had been months ago. I took little things as a sign of improvement such as W sleeping in same bed and I and letting go and throwing out old bed set. Where months ago she refused to sleep in same room as me. One point W had abandoned everything to do with our house and if I brought up any decision making about an improvement or change she would tell me that she was leaving and now where she herself speaks and follows through with home improvements.

Not much but a step in the right direction. I still think there were somethings I was doing right. There were others things I was doing as some have suggested and they came across as annoying and controlling.

I did not ever think W would escalate this to the point were she would break something of such sentimental value to proof a point.