I know. It would be so much easier if I had not done all those things before our sitch began. I did not always text her back but she always faithfully text me. There were times I treated her not so kind and said to her "You're a terrible W" or I would say to her in not so many words that I did not want to be with her anymore and I did it just to say it, when I said and did these things it was either out of anger or me just playing mind games with her.

So if I start to ignore her text messages, yes it will be different from the approach I have not but not different from the person I was before.

We do have moments where we are civil with one another, and extend courtesy. Today we did some baking together, W offered me a beverage and we had civil conversations. Actually it was pretty good until I brought up the R-talk. I was not getting any "hmmmmms" "huhs" ect...actual conversations. We sat and read her b-day cards. I blew it today, she was actually doing pretty well and I brought up the R.

I will be courteous. I will be pleasant. I wont bring up R any longer. I will make myself more scarce, I will start hitting the gym again and make it during times where we would otherwise be in the house together just sitting around. I will still sleep in the same bed as her. I won't ask her to do anything any longer unless she brings it up first.

Should I write her an email or letter giving the WAW speech?


M: 27, W: 25
Together since: 01/31/00
M: 10/4/09 (8 Months)
ILBNILWY: 01/24/10
EA confirmed: 02/10/10 (Busted).
Road to Reconcile began: 07/10/10
Retrouvaille: 09/10/10