Still chipping away at EA

[elvencat]

Don't send him anything until you have moved out...

I will tomorrow afternoon. He's going to be out visiting the male friend I mentioned earlier.. I'll be over at rental with DD, and I plan to pack up some stuff in the morning and head over there to set up. Hopefully his friend will talk to him about how this is all so wrong, and then he'll get hit with a double whammy when he gets home.

I showed MIL the separation agreement I worked on (using free online tools). It almost made her cry, but she nodded her head in agreement. I put in info about how we both currently retain legal custody of DD (which is true), but that I will have physical custody and H will have liberal visitation when DD is at MIL's for child care.

I also put in there that DD will have no verbal or physical communication with any person, or said person's family, who is currently involved in a physical and/or emotional extra-marital affair with either spouse. Bet that hits hard, but I feel I had to say it.

Honestly, Allen, once I read exactly what he's been saying behind my back, I totally felt the full method actor feeling of "being Spock". Until I got (as an old art teacher used to say) hit with a wet noodle.... I thought I was being detached 'enough'. Well.. no more. I'm open to working on this, but not while he's trash talking me to the OW, and allowing her to trash talk me in return. OK - Not while he has any contact with OW at ALL.

As far as exposing to University..I found a state job I want to apply for and they require my college transcripts as part of the application package. Soooo... perfect timing to go see what recourse I have with the university as it just so happens to be the one I attended. I will do so with caution, however, because I read what happened to Seeing Red. I'll make sure noone can say I did anything illegal.

Deep Breath....

This is going to be a long, muddy dirt road (I know what I'm talking about here, I grew up on one, literally) and no matter the outcome, I intend to make my and my daughter's lives MUCH better before we hit the blacktop at the end.