W came back early as the event ended early. Which is good. What is bad. W came back was was completely upset after seeing me. Even though I did all the extra things I previously posted.W still wanted D even more. She still brings up the past 10 years of hell and how she is confused and scared to let me back in her life. Now does not want to go to Florida for our family vacation next month. This hurt me the most as I wanted everything for her to come.
I don't know. I am really hurt now. I came into the apartment and just screamed and cried. It hurts so much now.
On a side note ,I cannot afford and L. I cant afford most, and the one I can want a all or nothing D, no reconciliation. Also, I think I am going to go stay with my sister for and go completely dark for a week. The bad thing, is I can't do anything with the kids.
Last edited by CPCajun; 06/27/1009:21 AM.
Me 31 Wife 34 (Step)D 15 /(Step)S 13 / D 6 Married 3/3/01 Separated 6/4/10 Bomb 6/14/10 Served 6/22/10 EA/PA Discovered 7/5/10 Now Back Together 8/1/10
You NEED a good family law atty, CPC. Beg, borrow or steal, this has to be your first step. Are there things you are paying for for your wife, that you can/should not allocate toward protecting yourself legally?
Sounds to me like something happened on her trip to make her pull back.
Ok I think she just was stressed out and tired from the long drive back. Though what happened late last night shouldn't of happened it did. I know she is leery of letting me back in her life.
Today was so much better. I forgot or forgave all that was said from last night. I made her breakfast ,like I usually did on Sunday mornings. I have not made breakfast since the S. I think it started her day out on a positive note. She wanted me to sit in bed with her and watch TV. After a while she mentioned her neck hurt. I shrugged it off as I didn't want to make a move on her and mess things up. She mentioned it again. I asked if I could rub her neck, she let me. Then I began to massage her head and back. It felt so good to be able to touch her again.
He spent the whole day watching TV, and later tonight took out some Chinese food for the whole family. I asked for a kiss and got one on her cheek before retiring out to here. This was such a good day, I am grateful for.
I am assuming this is one of her test?
Me 31 Wife 34 (Step)D 15 /(Step)S 13 / D 6 Married 3/3/01 Separated 6/4/10 Bomb 6/14/10 Served 6/22/10 EA/PA Discovered 7/5/10 Now Back Together 8/1/10
You NEED a good family law atty, CPC. Beg, borrow or steal, this has to be your first step. Are there things you are paying for for your wife, that you can/should not allocate toward protecting yourself legally?
Sounds to me like something happened on her trip to make her pull back.
Puppy
Not really, the economy has caught up to me. Basically every dime, is going to bills. Plus there was a protection order in place to where I cannot manipulate, open or close accounts or funds. As of now, I know I will be eaten up by her L but I may take the preliminary hearing on my own. Unless something comes up.
Me 31 Wife 34 (Step)D 15 /(Step)S 13 / D 6 Married 3/3/01 Separated 6/4/10 Bomb 6/14/10 Served 6/22/10 EA/PA Discovered 7/5/10 Now Back Together 8/1/10
I'll work on the L, I'll find a way. I am very resourceful, it is one of the reason W loves(d?) me. I am concerned but not concerned on this. Makes sense?
As for this small positive note. Everything was fine till I placed my hear on her shoulder. She said she wasn't ready yet. I told her ok, thanks for letting me know. I did not want to pursue or pressure. I didnt say anything else and sat on my side of the couch.
So right now we are on talking terms and are able to some spend time together in the house. As I mentioned I do not want to be clingy ot apply presure, but should I slowly continue? Meaning come in the house and just ask small questions? ie How was you day? and other small talk, then go on my merry way. Or should I still let her initiate? I still come in the house to see the kids.
I plan on going to a fitness club tonight, maybe with the kids. It s a membership my parrents gave us for a Christmas present last year, I have failed to use(especially with W). It should be intresting,since I havn't lifted a weight in 'centuries'.
I am just excited and nervous due to this small step. I appreciate all the advice all has given so far.
Coach, Are these the beginning of the test she is giving?
Last edited by CPCajun; 06/28/1003:51 PM.
Me 31 Wife 34 (Step)D 15 /(Step)S 13 / D 6 Married 3/3/01 Separated 6/4/10 Bomb 6/14/10 Served 6/22/10 EA/PA Discovered 7/5/10 Now Back Together 8/1/10
Well back down again. She cam in to the apartment to talk R. I tried to change the subject several time to no avail. She complained that I come into the house too much. One I do not have a fridge, two there is shower in her, three the kids are in the home. Ill have to get a fridge and I guess Ill bath in the sink for now. Plus Ill get the kids to come out here to play if they want to.
I thought roller coasters were supposed to be fun?
She also ask what I wanted out of this. Joy ....I tried to crawfish out of it but W would not budge. Since 'I' was in the answer changed it to what do we as a family need out of this. She went on again on how she does not need me and she is doing "whatever" for herself and her kids. "Her kids", that hurt. It struck a nerve. I told her they are our kids. She also stated that she was worried that I go get sex somewhere else. I assured her I would not bring a woman back here.
She said ok and walked off.
Me 31 Wife 34 (Step)D 15 /(Step)S 13 / D 6 Married 3/3/01 Separated 6/4/10 Bomb 6/14/10 Served 6/22/10 EA/PA Discovered 7/5/10 Now Back Together 8/1/10
Then I get this a little after she started the R talk.
W -Why don't u ever txt me nice things ?
M -I do.
W -We met on icq chatting all the time ! But 10 yrs later we never talk
M -I just learned this text stuff. Communications is something we need, but I do not want to smother you.
W -Ya but I been after u for yrs to txt with me or talk with me online u won't u always said it was stupid
M -I am proud of you that you are going to work with the BLM. Actually I am jealous.
M -It was wrong. But I like talking to you face to face.
W -I know u do but even face to face u were ugly to me all the time
M -I took you for granted. My love became numb and I fell out of touch. This awakening has cleared my mind. I now see that hot redhead with curly hair that I first fell in love with.
W -I don't have curly hair
M -The first picture you ever sent me did.
W -U like what curly hair?
M -Yes, you look cute and sexy with it. As long as it isn't short.
W -O so I'm not cute and sexy with the way i am now?
M -Yes you are. You are always sexy to me. I always find you attractive.
M -I stair and smile at you now because I love yor smile. If you smile, I know you are happy. I want you to always smile.
That was the end. I went to bed.Should I continue this, as she says she wants me to text her as we used to before(or chat)? Or is this considered persuing an I should stop?
Sorry, I am all confused now. I am getting to the point I do not know what to do.
Me 31 Wife 34 (Step)D 15 /(Step)S 13 / D 6 Married 3/3/01 Separated 6/4/10 Bomb 6/14/10 Served 6/22/10 EA/PA Discovered 7/5/10 Now Back Together 8/1/10
Then why is she back and forth with trying to talk vs discussing R?
Don't I want her to initiate talk(not R talk) even if it is thry text?
Me 31 Wife 34 (Step)D 15 /(Step)S 13 / D 6 Married 3/3/01 Separated 6/4/10 Bomb 6/14/10 Served 6/22/10 EA/PA Discovered 7/5/10 Now Back Together 8/1/10
