That's true EC - what Allen says. Less dramatics involved if you wait until after the move to send something.
I'm proud of you and how you are taking a stand for yourself and your daughter! It gives me strength seeing another strong woman. I'll tell ya, personally, I'm sitting here thinking there's no way I can go through several years of this crap... that I'll just tell H to go ahead and file and be done with it if he keeps all this up! I can't fathom it going on endlessly yet I know I have to have patience - that it doesn't get fixed overnight.
I find it helps if I have a strategy in place for my weaker moments, whether it's someone to call or email or a book to read or a prayer to say - whatever. Anything but to succumb to despair.
