The saga continues

[OfficerInNeed]

OK help me out here. I thought what I was doing was working and for the most part it seemed to until yesterday.

Today we had some pleasant exchanges and I decided to pursue her and it backfired.

I asked "Would it be possible to sit down and talk about possibilities?"

and W responded "I don't think it is going to work"

I replied and asked "Do you want it to work?"

W said "Does not matter if I want it to or not it just won't" W then went on to say "I can never forgive you or forget what you done and I can't ever be happy with you"

I said "There is a difference between not wanting it to work and don't think it is going to work. I did not ever think we would be in this situation but here we are"

W then said "I am annoyed and aggravated by being here, I am not happy" I said "If there is a the slightest bit of want then that is something we can build on." W said "NO"

I said to W "Walking out the door and leaving this house and our marriage might bring short term happiness but will not make either one of us happy long term"

W said "Maybe your right but I am not thinking about the long term right now" I then asked W "If you honestly do not want to spend the remainder of your life with me in it look me in my eyes and say do"

W refused to reply or even look at me" I then said "If that is what you truly want, a divorce" W looked at me and said "I do want a divorce" and I said "and to spend your life without me?"

W replied "I can't tell you want I want after that" I said to W "I do not thing of a future beyond this marriage, I never had" W said "Well that is your problem" I then replied "Tell me that you don't want to spend your life with me" W looked at me and then turned away....


OK so there it was and all it's pursuing glory.

I need help. Yes I want our marriage to work out. W still not willing to work on it.

W does NOT have a home to move into right now and may not for another couple months. up till yesterday for a 4 week span W said nothing about leaving she spoke as if she was willing to stay and eventually work it out.

I need help on "moving on" without being an a,ss. What scripts do I use without being a jerk. Can I give the WAW speech via letter as opposed to telling her face to face? I know she wont listen and she probably wont read it either but it's a shot.

It sucks because what she is doing now I have done before (breaking things around the home that had more than monetary value). So she could use that as a script against anything I say.

I am confused at the moment.

Also I cannot make her leave, she is co-owner of the home, and as stated in the past We own a side by side duplex and rent the other side out to my parents, so I am not leaving.