I tried, I changed, but still am getting divorced!

[newmama]

if your WH comes back, make him fall in love with you and work hard to be a part of your life!

I know what you are saying, but if he comes back, he will need to make ME fall in love with him!

I know you are smart enough to have a list of must haves to make the new relationship work! and good for you!

Yep and it's a pretty short but important list.

What is so hard for me, and maybe a bit misleading are all the success stories i hear of and read. Kudos to them for making it work... I am so happy for them. But at the same time, think that is the reason i can't accept my life as is.

Yes, I feel the same way! But then, why are these other people on the DB forum, who are gently telling us to let go, not being moved by those success stories? You know? I think "why am I hoping and so and so has moved on and accepted her life"
So what makes some give up and others keep fighting????

I have a few days where I accept the D and my life and then i meet some random stranger or nun or some other bizarre person who tells me their success story... and then I go back to... is this a sign from God???

IMO the REAL signs are loud and clear, like what you just described. I remember the stories you are referring to (from your thread) and they are sure "uncanny!" too strange to ignore.

But I guess I don't look for signs so much...I think I am better at feeling or hearing the answers. I would read into EVERYTHING way too much if I were to look for signs-but that is my personality!