Still chipping away at EA

[elvencat]

Also, before NC - should I talk to H about visition with DD. I know that will give him a heads up of a sort that I'm planning to do something, but I know I can't take DD with me without telling him because that'll cause a hornets' nest of problems. I know he'll see her when MIL watches her, but should I try to hammer out something definite so I don't get constant messages from him asking where she is and what's going on?

I plan on letting DD call him whenever she wants to talk to him, which is what I do now when we visit my parents. I usually send him a text and tell him to call back to talk to DD and then I let her answer and hang up the phone without me ever talking to him.