Yup, well, your husband's an addict, he's goign to say whatever he can to protect the object of his addiction... the fantasy is falling apart slowly... it does over time...
Have you seen the geurilla db video? Its a great tool to use to support exposure to yoru H's family members.. you just have to sit and watch this with your family members and THEN talk to them about supporting you.. It will do 80% of the work FOR you