"WOrking on your brother will help your SON... WOrkign with your brother to act like an adult will help set an example for your son to follow"
use lines like : I am not asking you to "take my side"
I am asking you to be on the side of marriage instead of the side of DIVORCE...
Can you promote marriage and the importance of acting like an adult to your borther with me please?
He's not going to hear me, he needs to hear REPEATEDLY that his famly is NOT willing to support OW at ANY TIME in the future and she will NEVER be welcoem in this family EVER
He needs to hear that from you
All she needs to do is read a script and refuse him any physical or emotiona refuge and otherwise shut him out.. that's not a lot of conflict for her to deal with .. its actually AVOIDING conflict to take this position...
Divorce, lies, cheating, and abuse is conflict... she would be promoting the END of conflict...
And also let her know her silence on the topic is SUPPORTING his infidelity.. her staying silent makes her a PART of the affair..
