Still chipping away at EA

[elvencat]

The only other family member I can think of is H's sister. She's been adamant about staying out of it because 1. she loves her brother and hates conflict of any kind and 2. she has a lot of problems with one of her three teens and has to deal with a lot from him. He's basically heading down H's path as far as I can tell - only with a police record about to be thrown in because of his impulse control problems. I wish there was a way I could get through to H that he is a big role model for the nephew and acting like he is now won't help nephew either.

But - I also found out from chat log that she flat out told H she would have done the same thing I did. Sooooo..... all I can do is at least try.

As far as my parents... I'm really glad to know keeping them out of the loop was probably for the best. I felt guilty about it, but at the same time knew it would just make my H that much more likely to not want to be around my family pretty much ever again.