I am glad to hear you are reading and learning from different sources.
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I am trying to work out where I/he is in the stages of MLC.
I would caution about putting to much into what "stage" they are in. It can be an intersting observation, but this can take along time and more patience than you ever thought you had. Even then, the ending remains to be seen.
Your treating him with compassion and understanding is great and I would say important. Treating yourself that way is more important.
