I don't know who OW is, as I don't want to know. I did tell MIL that H is seeing someone else, but she has her allegance to H. However, she is the one who told me to get a bulldog lawyer and fight for as much as I can get!
I signed legal sep papers under the understanding that we would go to MC and consider reconciliation. We went and that is where he told me he is not coming back. I don't know how much I can change in a D now that it is in place - I know I can fight for "the best interests of the child" at any point and try to prove his emotional abuse.
I am a spiritual person and believe in my vows - even though I had an affair. I know, hypocritical. But now it seems he is quite cozy venting constant anger and history rewrites of blame towards me while doing fun things with her. Reading others in this forum, I've thought I should end everything with H, just stop talking to him, making dinner, spending time etc. But the DB coach said the opposite - make the most of the time, spend more, be an attractive alternative. I just don't know what to do as I suffer anxiety attacks hours up to and after visit with H knowing he will be hostile and angry.
